The Cow in the Parking Lot: A Zen Approach to Overcoming Anger

Narrated by:
Bill Mendieta
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Release Date
June 2010
4 hours 50 minutes
Imagine you're circling a crowded parking lot. Just as you spot a space, another driver races ahead and takes it. In a world of road rage, domestic violence, and professionally angry TV and radio commentators, your likely response is anger, even fury. Now imagine that instead of another driver, a cow has lumbered into that parking space and settled down. Your anger dissolves into bemusement. What has changed? Not just the occupant of the space but your perspective on the situation. We're a society swimming in anger, always about to snap. Using simple, understandable Buddhist principles, Scheff and Edmiston explain how to replace anger with happiness. They introduce the four kinds of demands that most commonly underlie anger (Important and Reasonable, Reasonable but Unimportant, Irrational, and Impossible), then show how to identify our real unmet demands, dissolve our anger, and change what happens when our buttons are pushed. We learn to laugh at ourselves, a powerful early step, and realize that others don't make us angry. Only we can make ourselves angry.
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Lorna R.

I imagine this book would have been an interesting read, and it helped me really focus on why I experience anger and possible methods for moving through it. Sadly it was spoiled by the appalling narration! Pacing so bad I often couldn't tell a chapter title from the sentence following which really messed with my understanding. Worst of all, though, was the bizarre and frankly borderline racist 'all purpose foreign' accent he chose to use for any quotation from a non-caucasian source, be it a Native American elder or Thich Nhat Hanh. Truly weird recording. I'd love to revisit the book in printed format to give it a fair review.

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Heidi S.

Not a bad book, he has some really valid points. The narrator Faking the accents was a bit unnecessary

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I learned a lot from this audiobook, it wasn’t corny to me like some books in the self improvement genre. I really enjoyed it!

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Osman Raidhan

I found this book to be very informative and useful. It should be read in schools and taught to kids so that they can learn to manage and control their anger. Imagine the society that would come following teachings from this book and others

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Daniel C.

Easy book to follow and it does have some teachings you can apply if you’re working on letting anger go. I have personally used the Cow vs Car example and also love the Landlord story with the horses (Buddhist story). The narrator is good as well, nice and light book.

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This book had so many wonderful lessons, I just loved it - loved the way they were presented so clearly; so many little things I learnt. The narrator has a lovely timbre to his voice, but the fake accents were dreadful. Another review said they were unnecessary, and I thought “they can’t be that bad”, but by two thirds in they were really cringey - it sounds like he was taking off the Dalai Lama, Deepak Chopra and Rev. Desmond Tutu just to mention three! (I tried to apply the book’s Buddhist principles and not let it bug me, so that was ironic!) Suxh a pity because the book’s actual content is wonderful - should be taught in schools.

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Desislava M.

In the bull’s eye, this book came to me in the right place at the right time. Very human, understanding, and practical, I’ll be going through it in the future for sure.

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Sigute R.

such a great book and I'm sure it is not the last time I'm going to listen to it.

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Great book

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Kari G.

Everyone should read book!

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